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You're not alone. Countless couples experience difficulties in communication, emotional connection, and intimacy, leaving them feeling frustrated and isolated. If these problems remain unresolved, they can drive a wedge between you, your partner, and your spiritual life. But there is a way to turn things around. The Four Gifts of Love® class can help.
Transform Your Marriage NowA breakthrough approach, rooted in decades of research and real-life success stories, the Four Gifts of Love® offers a powerful framework for revitalizing your marriage and deepening your relationship with God. By practicing the four gifts of Care, Protection, Honesty, and Time, you will embark on a journey that nourishes both your marital and spiritual life. Foundation 4 Marriage: The Four Gifts of Love® Lifestyle can help.
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A willingness an effort to be a primary source of happiness.
Nurture your marriage by willingly being a source of happiness to your partner by meeting the most important emotional needs, and following God's instruction to care for one another as we care for ourselves.
A willingness and effort to avoid being a source of unhappiness.
Shield your relationship from harm by avoiding behaviors that cause unhappiness, eliminating Love Busters, protecting each other from your own selfishness, and finding mutually acceptable solutions, as God instructed us to do to others as we would want done to ourselves.
A willingness and effort to make everything about you transparent.
Foster trust and transparency in your marriage by being open about your past, present, and future, and regularly communicating to God.
A willingness and effort to give undivided attention.
Cultivate emotional intimacy by giving undivided attention to provide meaningful care, which is essential for effectively giving and receiving the other gifts of love. Schedule time for meeting intimate emotional needs in your marriage and spend time developing your relationship with God.
FGL is unlike any other regular marriage seminar out there. The Four Gifts of Love is different.
FGL is an 8-week program where you attend a one-and-a-half-hour class once a week. But what makes it really effective is the Four Gifts of Love Participant’s Guide, because every week, you’ll have “assignments” to accomplish before you attend the class [no personal information is shared in class]. And these assignments will keep you and your spouse accountable to your class facilitators… and to each other.
Once you’ve experienced the marriage-transforming (and marriage-saving!) potential of this course, you’ll definitely see how much of a blessing the Four Gifts of Love can be to you. It’s the reason why we call this program an “inter-generational game-changer.” And if you ask us, attending this program is one of the best decisions we've made in our entire life.
FGL gave us practical tools to communicate clearly, especially when conversations become heated or sensitive issues and topics are touched. It's helped us see things from a different and respectful perspective, allowing us to build a more loving relationship.
The overall effect on our marriage is a sense of peace and security because any issue is workable and pitfalls are avoidable, and that being in love is not a flimsy, fluffy feeling but a deeply-rooted commitment to put each other's happiness first. And in so doing, marriage is not just hard work but pleasurable and God-honoring.
The class really helped upgrade our marriage in practical but intentially systematic ways. At first we thought we were alright [in our marriage] but the class exposed a lot of valuable issues that we just previously brushed off as seemingly insignificant.
After having a kid and getting destracted by the daily grind, it was great to be reminded and refocus on the fundamentals.
Dear Friend,
People often ask what inspired me to dedicate over 30 years of my professional life to help marriages. The answer comes from an original career path as a mental health clinic co-owner/supervisor and a school district student-support director.
By counseling families and providing support groups for thousands of children and teens, an important fact was evident: My efforts to help were only putting "Band-Aids" on their wounds. You see, their issues seemed to begin with a home life where mom and dad were not prioritizing their marital relationship.
One impacting memory was when children and teens, too many to count, would cry and share their hearts in a support group called "Family Change" (aka, "My Parents are Getting a Divorce and I'm in PAIN Because of It" group). My heart would break as I heard their genuine thoughts of blaming themselves, fear for their future relationships, anger toward their parents, and the ultimate feeling that their world was out-of-control and meaningless.
Although I started my career wanting to work with children and families primarily as a licensed psychologist, my path changed and heart-felt compassion led me to a dedication to marriage education and developing the Four Gifts of Love® Class material. This choice was also made easier because of my father, Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., who made the same choice over 50 years ago. Together, we have developed the Four Gifts of Love® materials and co-authored books.
We have a passion for helping marriages, but another passion that Dr. Harley and I share is for God, as followers of Christ. This passion has led us to include material about developing a deeper relationship with Him using care, protection, honesty, and time as a guide that we personally use. This material represents the first of our writings that includes the goal of developing both relationships in one education material, the Four Gifts of Love® Class and Foundation 4 Marriage: The Four Gifts of Love® Lifestyle. And, as we respect that spirituality is a personal decision, the chapters and assignments about God are written separately and may be optional, if so desired.
The Four Gifts of Love® material represents over 15 years of curriculum development and empirical research on marriage improvement, with over 1000 couples from a variety of cultures completing the class.
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Best wishes on your journey to learn about foundational tools that can make your marriage the best it can be ... a marriage where love lasts a lifetime.
Dr. Jennifer Chalmers
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